Have you ever wondered why it seems like everyone but you is getting the girl? What do they have that you don't? What's the secret?
The fact is, there is no secret. We're all capable of getting any woman we want. How? Through your choice of words. 99.9% of the time, we shoot ourselves in the foot with the words that come out of our mouths. If you stop doing that, then success will follow.
Here's an example: Let's say you meet an attractive woman and hit it off with her. The night ends with you getting her number and a promising kiss on the cheek.
Two days later, you're talking with her on the phone. If you're like most guys, the following sentence (or a similar one), finds its way out of your mouth and into the receiver:
"Would you like to go out this weekend?"
If she says "yes," you’re lucky. If she says "no," you're left wondering what happened. It's simple; the very words you chose killed the deal.
As you've heard before, confidence is the key to everything. But the way in which you posed your statement undermined it. By breaking down the sentence, the problems become clear.
"Would you like to go out this weekend?"
Here's what's wrong.
Like: Here, you're giving her a choice, and at this early stage of the game, choices are bad. She wants a man who is decisive, and by using "like," you're doing the opposite. You're allowing her to second-guess herself. How can she know if she likes going out with you if the date hasn't taken place? Don't get her thinking about the date before it happens.
Out: This is the most destructive word of all. Think about it; if something is on its way out, it's no longer a part of your life. You take out the trash. You take out money to pay for something. When applied to this situation, it automatically implies that this fling is over before it begins. You'll go out all right, with no hope of a second date.
Weekend: It's no so much the fact that you suggest plans for the weekend vs. a weekday; it's that you're not specific enough. Again, women want confidence. Pick a day and stick with it.
Here's what you should have said
"Let's go to the movies Saturday night, I'll be at your place at 8."
Nothing less, nothing more. This statement radiates confidence. You're telling her where you're taking her, when, and at what time she needs to be ready. There's no room for doubt and no opportunity for her to think about what will be.
Other don’ts you must note:
"Can I call you sometime?"
"I don't know, what would you like to do?"
What have we learned?
With any situation, especially with women, confidence is the key to success. If you ever forget that, remember these three key points:
Think it. Believe it. Sell it.
So the next time you spot the cute blonde at the beach, start off with a smile. Approach her with confidence from the start and it will be your shoulder her head is resting on, and the other guys who will go home alone, clueless.
Catch you next week,
Omoge Arewa
